Let’s figure out what you actually want.
Maybe your sex life feels stuck. Maybe you and your partner want to try something new but don’t know where to begin. Maybe there’s a fantasy or fetish you’ve never quite known what to do with. Or maybe things are good—and you want some help making sexy plans for the year.
Coaching gives us a space to get curious about what’s happening now, imagine what you’d like your sex life or relationships to look like, and come up with practical ways to move toward it.
I work with individuals, couples, and people in all kinds of relationship structures. My approach is playful, research-informed, future-focused, and very big on trying things between sessions.
Change rarely happens overnight. You’re the expert on your own life, and I’ve got your back as we experiment with different approaches, see what works, and adjust as we go.
With my book tour this fall, I’ll only be taking on a small number of new coaching clients over the next few months.
What might we work on?
Desire & mismatched desire • Fetishes & kink • Fantasy • Sexual confidence • Asking for what you want • Pleasure • Non-monogamy • Dating • Intimacy • Trying something new • Getting out of a rut
What happens in a session?
We’ll figure out what you want to change, explore what might be getting in the way, and experiment with different ways of getting you closer to where you want to be. Depending on what we’re working on, I might give you conversation prompts, exercises, experiments, sexy homework, resources, or things to try on your own or with a partner.
I’m a big believer in taking what we talk about out into the real world. After every session, I’ll send you a personalized follow-up with ideas, exercises, and things to explore before we meet again.
Coaching Options
Individual Coaching (45 minutes)
Single Session — $250
5 Sessions — $1,150
10 Sessions — $2,200
30-Minute Starter Session — $150
For a specific question or situation that doesn’t require a full session.
(I also offer a free 15 minute consult)
Relationship Coaching (45 minutes)
Single Session — $300
5 Sessions — $1,300
10 Sessions — $2,400
A few things you might be wondering
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No problem. I’ve worked with clients all over the world.
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I wish! Coaching sessions are private pay.
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Trust me—they’re probably not. And more than likely, you’re not alone in your desires. This is a judgment-free space where you can talk openly about what turns you on, what you’re curious about, and what you’re trying to understand.
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That’s okay too. My background is in sexuality and relationships, but nothing exists in a vacuum. What brings you to coaching might connect to work, friendships, confidence, identity, stress, or other parts of your life—and we can talk about those too.
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We’ll figure it out together. We can explore different approaches and find what fits you, your life, and what you’re hoping to change.
Ready to book a session or a consult?
“I was shy during my first session with Niki, but she created a safe and non-judgmental space. She helped me explore the impact of my catholic upbringing on my sexuality and gave me the tools to get comfortable talking about sex for the first time.”
“Niki has been absolutely fantastic to work with. She has the perfect balance of being very brutally honest with you, and at the same time also being very compassionate and empathetic. She never just tells you what you want to hear, but still can be very encouraging, complimentary and positive. Niki is very solution focused and always brings you back to what can we do today and moving forward to improve your situation and improve your life moving forward. She is extremely easy to talk to, open up to, and share anything with, she asks very good questions and is an incredible listener. Niki is never judgmental and has a very open-minded point of view on the world today. Her coaching sessions have been enormously helpful and valuable for me and I highly recommend her to anyone.”
“I don’t want to say Niki gave me my first orgasm because that sounds wrong, but it was through her ability to help me get out of my head and into my body, her homework assignments, and her encouragement that I got there. Patience is key. Change didn’t happen overnight, but through her guidance and support, I got there. It was a happy day when I told her I didn’t need to see her anymore, as I was ready to move on with my magic wand!”